When two people fall in love, trouble and problems are never factored-in in that relationship despite them being the cruel devils that bring down nearly all relationships.
The problems are usually from within the relationships with those from without taking a small percentage.
The following are some of the ways you can use to tell whether you are the problem in your relationship:
1. Mistaking sex for intimacy
It is always very common for people to mistake sex for intimacy in a relationship. People who assume that having a lot of sex in a relationship, then all is well. But this is ill-advised. It is good to underscore that sex is not a guarantee for intimacy. Sex, Intimacy and communication must go hand in hand.
2. Inappropriate anger
Having problems in controlling and expressing your anger is also another cue that you are the source of trouble in your relationship or a potential source of future problems. Even if your anger is justified, it is noble to find alternative and healthy ways of expressing it as violent and inappropriate proportions of anger is very damaging to those around you.
4. Failure to dream
This can be interpreted as failure to dream as a couple or as an individual. As an individual, you may dream of going back to college and get a degree and a better job and dreaming as a couple could include buying a home, having children or going for a holiday together. Personal dreams and ambitions indicate to your partner that you are worth to have around and failure to have individual dreams will culminate to dragging your relationship down. This, therefore, shows you are the problem.
5. What you do/say
How you react and respond when your partner tries to raise a pertinent issue tells a lot whether you are a source of problems or a rational person.
If you are the kind who resorts to their phones, shouts back to pin the other down or the one that quickly changes the topic, then it means you are the problem in the relationship and you need to work on your attitude and discipline.