The sex episodes portrayed on television among other programs are actually not a true reflection of what real life sex really is.

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The well-choreographed scenes escape the reality that sex is most of the time messy, loud, smelly and filled with awkward snafus.

The following are some of the common but shaming moments that can happen during sex and how to deal with them:

You shout your Ex’s name

When lovemaking is at its peak and the two souls involved are hovering aboard an electrifying and super exciting cloud, it's common for them to lose themselves and call out the name of their former lovers. 

This may not be taken seriously with your partner and may even culminate in a breakup.

However, to come out of this, you only need to apologize and assure your mate that he/she is the only one you want to be with and such won't happen again.

You pass gas loudly

Air escaping can be very shaming especially for those getting intimate for the first time. It can lower your esteem and also trigger discomfort.

Nonetheless, dealing with this is easy; instead of getting embarrassed make fun of it and emphasize that you are human and the passing of gas is healthy.

Urine/Milk leaking

Some women may leak little urine during lovemaking whereas lactating mothers may have some milk gush from their breasts. Men healing from prostate cancer surgery may also leak urine.

This fluids should be taken as contributing spices to the sex mix and should not by any chance be used to tag someone messy or unsexy. They should also be taken as a sign of super arousal and proper sexual response.

Child walks in

When your kid walks into your bedroom during a steamy moment, it can get very uncomfortable especially if it is loud and messy. Your kid may think someone is getting hurt.

If it happens, quickly grab a towel and walk the child out and tell him or her nobody was getting hurt. For older kids emphasize that your privacy is respected and above all, ensure your doors are well locked next time.

Ugly orgasm face

Many people will wear very funny faces during a climax. This should however not be a turnoff point. Such an instance should be laughed off and also be taken as the best moment when mates have sunk deep in each other's love sexually and nothing can stop them from expressing what they feel.