If this heading caught your eye then you are definitely wondering whether he's ready to settle down. 

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Maybe you are deeply pondering and reconsidering heeding the sage English proverb: Don't place all your eggs in one basket. If that is the case, then you have no reason to keep guessing anymore.

Men nowadays aren't really affected by the element of time and age, they are willing to wait it out till they find their person, while others are just simply afraid of commitment. 

Women, on the other hand, do not have the luxury of time. At least not as much as the men do.

Imagine the crushing reality, maybe one or two years down the line, when you realise that your Mr Right was never really ready to take that bold next step. 

Never confuse chemistry and mutual feelings as a guarantee of commitment from a guy. 

To avoid unnecessary heartbreak and wastage of valuable chunks of your prime years, here are some of the signals that indicate his lack of interest in a long-term commitment:

1. He blows hot and cold in his pursuit of you

This is one classic way of knowing a guy who's not interested in a long-term relationship. If he doesn't call, text or make serious sustained efforts at winning you over then he's not in it for the long haul. No matter how hot he burns when he pursues, a real man who's ready for commitment will sustain that tempo.

2. Passes on the use of relationship labels as uncool

A man who makes excuses on why he's not interested in defining the relationship is definitely not interested in commitment. If he frequently plays down your relationship in front of family and friends then don't suffer any illusions about his intentions. The label is what shows that a guy is proud to claim you.

3. No real ambitions or life goals

A man who's not passionate about anything in life is definitely not the settling type. This shows his lack of maturity and drive to push anything forward. His lack of interest in his own future definitely forewarns of his stand on your relationship; it's of no consequence to him.

4. He's both boyish and childish

Every man is allowed to have that boy inside of him, all work and no play made Jack a dull boy. However, when this childish behaviour overrides and derides the man completely then there is a problem. This means he will never have the integrity to step up in times of adversity or even just show up. The stress will prove too much for him, so he either runs away or shuts down.

5. Leans too much into your faults and tries to change you

A partner who sets an unfairly high bar of standards for you is definitely not one to settle down with. Especially if his faults are far much worse than yours. This should generally show his lack of genuine appreciation of the person you are. A honest partner leads by example.

6. He's the Yes man always

Yeah, you heard that right. A man who can never say "NO" to any of your demands especially when they differ so widely from his beliefs and principles is not an honest man. This is a clear indication that he does not consider your union as one, a man who wants to build a home with you will definitely stand his ground when it comes to his beliefs and principles. A pleaser is definitely not commitment material.

7. He's cheated on you more than once

His behaviour is already working against his facade of wanting a stable relationship with you. If he cheats more than once, then it shows his level of commitment to you. This is a man who is not ready to be tied down to one woman anytime soon. 

8. Avoids any conversations about future plans

If the conversations about moving in together, having kids, meeting the family members and moving to a family conducive neighborhood are met with either hostility, ignored, or treated with sheer disinterest then he's definitely not ready to settle down. You've bet on the wrong horse sister. You had better start packing early.