The pressure to get married is increasing day by day. Most of my friends and age mates are getting married and having babies while I'm not anywhere close to walking down the aisle.
In fact, I don't think I know who my future wife will be and where she is. While this doesn't bother me, my parents, friends, and society in general, seem bothered.
My mother is always telling me about an age mate who is having a wedding or just got married. I understand she is trying to ask when I'm bringing mine home.
If only she can read my mind to see it's not gonna happen anytime soon. Sometimes I get my dad looking at me as if to ask if I'm really straight.
Sometimes I also attend friends wedding planning committees where much of what happens is contributing funds and a little planning. This is where most of the pressure for singles to get married comes from.
People are always asking whose meetings are next and they stare on the singles present waiting for someone to say it's they are next.
Someone recently asked me till when will I keep contributing to other people's weddings without them contributing to mine. That's the last time I contributed and the last meeting I ever attended.
I won't mind if nobody assists me in footing my wedding bills. When old friends get in touch or I meet them along the streets they all seem to ask the same questions. "Hows your family, mama watoto and kids?"
I'm like they are doing well because every time I tell someone I'm not yet married they bring up other silly questions like "what are you waiting for?" And I'm not ready for such Q nA sessions.
I don't understand why the married people and the society, in general, keep on pressuring people to get married.
Why don't they just leave the single enjoy their singlehood in peace.
Just let us be. If it's just about getting married we will do it in our own time and will.
He who laughs last laughs the best. Maybe this applies to love too. For God's sake I'm not even 30 and life starts at 40.