In every relationship, knowingly, begrudgingly or in ignorant bliss, there always exists a gardener and a flower; roles shared between the two partners.
In some relationships, this arrangement works in perpetuity, however, for the bulk of them, it always proves fatal and grows as unsustainable as it is unhealthy.
Therefore, these relationships tend to demand a balance, a shift in roles of sorts. Where one partner becomes the gardener for a given period and hands over at a particular time to become the flower.
A gardener, in this case, is the relationship's sole caretaker or by large the one responsible for holding the couple together - the one who's more invested in the relationship than the other.
The gardener seeks out dates, texts first, does all the giving, while the flower on the other end just takes and drains. Sometimes the gardener likes it and the relationship thrives on this implicit arrangement, but at other times it becomes too burdensome and crumbles.
Truth be told, no one ever wants to feel undervalued and uncared for.
Good, healthy relationships are all about balance, today I garden, tomorrow let me be the flower to be pampered, spoilt and cared for.
Relationships are give and take. We both must know how to garden but we also must allow ourselves to be the flower at one point or another.
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