Not to take anything away from the self-driven, hardworking and independent modern women, however, truth be told, given the current Kenyan landscape whereby the level of employment is at an all-time low and ever increasing, the Kenyan youth are definitely suffering to attain financial stability. This pressure to make something out of yourself by conjuring gold out of hot air seems to be harder on the boy child.
Why do I say so? Today’s young men are not accustomed to being broke when compared to their women. Our fathers earned far more than our mothers and consistently bought them things they couldn’t buy on their own. Even folklore and happily-ever-after stories seem to indicate this fact; the knight-in-shining-armour concept for instance.
The man in question rode in on a horse and took the 'beauty he beheld' with him. The underlying assumption here were bordering on chivalry and chauvinism. For instance, the man was under the impression that she doesn’t have a horse, and she wasn’t going anywhere in particular prior to their meeting, or even if she was, wherever the man was going was far much better.
However, this doesn't appear to be the case anymore. Women are far more empowered and far less dependent on men for survival. These are the kind of women that current broke men have to meet and treat in the Kenyan dating scene.
Women aren't naive anymore. They don’t fall in love based on how cute a guy is or what promises he makes. Though intelligent women do, most Kenyan ladies don't fall in love with a man's potential either. They lack the imagination to fantasize about a lifestyle that a man has yet to prove he can provide.
They want a ready-made man. The notion is that if a man can’t provide a simple meal for the woman who is sharing her mental and physical time with him then he has a lot of work to do on himself in the areas of etiquette, personal pride and self-care and he should not be focused on a relationship.
Therefore broke Kenyan men find themselves in a quagmire. Dating has become a nightmare and a pretty stressful and expensive venture. Given these insurmountable odds, it would be safe to say that broke Kenyan men are definitely suffering the torturous pointy end of cupid's arrow and not in a good way.