With the frequent heartbreaking news in and out of Nairobi about women being murdered by their supposed boyfriends, husbands and lovers; it is wise to take careful measures to avoid falling in the same trap. 

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The reason why you should fear dating a psychopath is because they can hurt you or anyone else and sense no regret nor culpability about it. 

Majority of psychopaths hide their real characters and exhibit sociability, charm, all in the name of attaining a particular target that they want to. 

Here are signs that will show you who a real psychopath is and avoid falling for him:

1. He will take advantage of your naïvety through flatteries and then manipulate you

He will always praise you in disguise to make you feel that they value you but whenever they do this, they want something hidden in return. It is that moment when they will request for something you were not expecting. Since you have been treated like a queen, your ego massaged, how can you refuse? That is what you tell yourself, but be careful.

2. He may brag sometimes about making other people suffer and his love stories and love triangle

He might one day tell you how he made a fellow man suffer to make you feel like he can protect you. 

He might even tell you some of his love stories showing you how some were superior to you and other inferior to you.

 When you do a good research, you will find out how he is seeing some of these women who may even warn you about him or they are in connection to harm someone else. 

Many of the psychopaths are in more than one relationship.

3. He is constantly lying all the time and even uses charms to control you

Have you caught him lying again and again? Even when you catch them, they feel no guilt at all. Rather, he will continue lying. The charm and words he uses make you feel weak towards him and he might even simulate pain so that you feel pity for him.

Thus, when you find out that the man you want to date has an affinity to power, controlling people even to the extent of manipulating you, bragging about making others suffer in any way, and that he uses charm to control you, move out quickly before being his next victim.