Being in a relationship is as beautiful as residing in paradise. It can also be as ugly as an encounter with the devil in hell if you do not know how to keep it together and ensure that it is flourishing.
A relationship involves two individuals bound by the interests they have and probably the love they have for each other. If it turns sour, then, all that was meant to be crumbles and gets lost.
A relationship is built and based on goals set forth by the people in it.
The goals and everything in the relationship should be set up with a 50-50 input from both of the persons involved.
The problem arises when it is one person dictating what happens in the relationship or what does not happen.
When this is done, it means the individual dictating the course of the whole relationship thing is the one who gets to enjoy what the relationship has to offer while the other is probably reduced to lamentations about what has not been done right.
When you let them dictate everything you do in the relationship, it is very likely that you will start living a fake life that will be built on someone else's priorities and none from you are considered.
It will also mean that you do not get the chance or adequate chances to be yourself and to do what you would like or enjoy doing. Instead, you will be doing what they like and so less of what is good for you.
When they control the terms in the relationship, they will also have the power to emotionally manipulate you and get you into doing everything for their benefit even if you do not like it.
This will mean that they just use you but you may never realise it.
Furthermore, you will not have the power whatsoever of ever having to ask for anything or any clarification for the perceived fear of doing something wrong.