At Clinic ABC in Kibera, a client comes late in the evening and stays on the queue, letting everyone pass. The client is sad. Then, when the clinic is almost closing and the doctor is now almost alone, the man knocks at the door and enters. He takes his time, wallowing in shame, before he can finally say the problem at hand.
"Doctor, it never goes beyond a minute. I am so worried because my partner is obviously starved..."
Cases of impotence in Nairobi are many, and unlike in the rural set-up where tradition identified and used the community to address it, here in the city you are alone.
It is only you who can help your partner in such a situation which if not handled well could lead to break of families.
1. Foreplay
This helps bring your woman to the current airs. Unlike men, women take time to become sexually aroused. Foreplay therefore helps you to be at the same level before beginning the game.
2. Training
You are married and you belong to each other. Since buying sex toys for Kibera families might be a problem, you can train your man how to go slow with action. Using a watch and parts of your body, you can train him routinely so that he improves and increases the time before start and end.
3. Prepare for the encounter
Let your partner do what they can do to stop a quick climax once you go to bed.
4. Change positions
You can change your positions during action so as to minimise friction and prolong the time before a climaxing.