When deciding to fall in love and eventually get into a relationship with a man, ladies often have a need that they seek to fulfil.
Ladies are exact in what they need in a man before eventually committing. These are the types of securities ladies seek in a relationship:
Love and affection
It is every ladies dream to fall in love, quite unconditionally, with a man who values and appreciates her for who she is. These kind of ladies, however, are not the kind that hog media headlines because they seek nothing more than love and being loved.
Group-think security
Over time, exposure to foreign media in the form of soap operas has redefined the relationship landscape in Kenya. Ladies have their preconceived notions of how a man should be, how he should act and how he should treat her.
This is reinforced by their peers’ view on who a real man is, and a consequence, ladies continually seek men that meet her group’s perception of a real man.
Aesthetic security
This is a social media construct where ladies seek men who puff up their social media numbers in terms of likes and gawks represented by heart-shaped emojis.
A man must be presentable in social media, he must be worth being constantly ‘advertised’ on these social platforms.
Financial security
These are the ladies who may arguably be termed as ‘slay queens.’ They package themselves as a commodity when it comes to relationship matters. As a result, you will find them hobnobbing with fake gold dealers and politicians for the sake of money, which is their principle need in a relationship.
Physical security
Well, there are ladies who seek men based on their fear of being insecure, physically. You may find them dating guys with puffed muscles, or policemen so that when they walk around, they feel that they are invisible to harm.
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