There is a common perception that people who cheat have bad or unhappy relationships, which is not always the case.
Some couples are ever 'happy' in their relationships and even in their marriages, but cheating is still as common as any other day.
However, did you know that a person's history or experience could make them cheat?
People who went through some childhood trauma may sometimes be forced to cheat on their partners to get some sort of excitement which helps them get disconnected from the painful experiences in their past.
Esther Perel in her book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity outlines major reasons that may trigger couples who are in happy relationships to cheat.
She listed the following reasons:
1. Felling new emotions
This is where a person is having a terrible feeling or a hurting feeling either from the present, past or even future.
To get rid of the bad feelings, they end up cheating to help them forget. This is said to affect more men than women.
2. Admiring of life not lived
This is where you are thinking about that person who said NO while you were in high school, that boyfriend who went for further studies and he is back in the country, but you cannot marry him because you moved on.
So to accomplish the mission you started a long time ago, you end up cheating with him or her.
3. Self-exploration
Discovering yourself is something you cannot ignore, knowing what you want when you have already settled down.
Just after you said you had heard it all, new things emerge making you want more, and end up cheating.
The power of social media, what women and men share on Kilimani Mums and Dads is enough to make one think of trying something new, just for curiosity maybe.
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