Getting a wife in the olden days would include consent from not only your parents but also kinsmen.
Surprisingly, if you married a woman who isn't wanted by your people, she would be chased away and if you wouldn't agree you were both not only ex-communicated from your village but also anyone found talking to you would suffer the same consequences.
Due to this, men were thorough and keen when choosing their lifetime partners who would be appealing to everyone.
In the Kamba community, an arrogant woman was never tolerated. The one who would break families with lies or brewing fight among families.
After several warnings and punishment by the council of elders with no change in behavior, the woman regardless of the years she had been married, would be taken back to her parents.
She would be ex-communicated and banished from the land and the husband wouldn't say anything.
Funny enough, the elders would see that she has been returned to her parents sound and safely.
As a sign of shame, she would be carried in an ox-cart and returned to her hometown no matter the distance.
The action would serve as a warning to arrogant women who would 'sit' on their husbands or those bent on bullying other people.
However, things have changed and people are slowly moving away from their culture and way of life since few or no such cases are witnessed nowadays.
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