Breakups are the worst and painful experience for people in love.
Men and women both take time to recover from broken relationships.
Monica Mungai, a relationship expert says that there is nothing that hurts as much as breaking up with someone you have treasured or trusted all your life.
However, she says that breakups are normal in relationships.
Here are 5 tips to break up without hurting him or her.
1. Don’t shy away from saying it's over
Many people shy way from expressing their intentions when it comes to ending a relationship.
Mungai says that there is no point in giving him or her false hopes that everything’s okay when it is not.
She says that it is good for both of you if you know that there is a problem and it cannot be repaired hence break up.
2. Tell him or her to the face
Many people would prefer sending a text message, writing letters or using social media to break the news.
Mungai says that the best way is to tell him or her to the face.
She says that sending messages or calling him or her is an immature way of ending the relationship.
“You should be bold, approach him or her and tell that it cannot work and we are breaking up,” she adds.
3. Never blame him or her for a failed relationship.
Mungai says that putting the blame on him or she for the failed relationship create animosity.
She says that you should all take responsibility for the failed relationship.
“Shifting the blame on who caused the breakup does not help and rather creates more animosity,” she says.
4. Don’t give false offers
Some people when breaking up will give false offers for example, ‘we can just remain friends’, or ‘I will keep in touch’.
Mungai says such false hopes create more pain and anxiety for him or her.
5. Don’t share the breakup news online
Some people go to their social media platforms to share the news that they have ended their relationship.
Mungai says that sharing such information online is childish and ends up hurting as the same is shared by friends and other close relatives.
The relationship expert says that breakups are normal and people should take time to recover when they go through it.
She says that rushing to another relationship after failing in the first one is not healthy.
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