It has been a while since you separated from the father or the mother of your children and right now you are seeing someone else.

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Perhaps you think it is the right time to move in together and start a new life. However, you are finding it hard to tell your little children that they have a new father or a new mother.

This is how you can handle this:

1. Make it a family thing

In his book, Peter Sheras, a Clinical Psychologist from the University of Virginia who is also the author of the book titled "I can't believe you went through my stuff: How to give your teens the privacy they crave for and the guidance they need" says that this can be a difficult task.

However, you need to make it look like a family thing all over again. Take your children and your new lover out for lunch, for dinner and let them become friends. 

This will become easier for them to get along.

2. Assure your children of your presence

It is true that a new relationship will need much of your time since you will have to nurture it. This will involve a lot of movement.

A parent coach Jennifer Wolf suggests that you make sure that the children know that you are not shifting your attention from them. Keep them at the centre of your life.

3. Prepare the children

It is suggested that you start preparing the children to get acquainted with him. They should be psychologically prepared for the change. it is not that you are asking for their permission, no, you are making them understand that they are important to you.