When entering into a new relationship, the need for transparency is highly appreciated.
Being transparent includes speaking out about the exes.
This type of conversation should mostly take place on the first date.
Here, the new couples are expected to share reasons why they broke up with their exes.
However, this conversation should be made in the right way, and here is how one can do it:
1. Don’t be too negative
When describing your ex, you should take care not to be too negative about him.
Describe him or her as someone in a job interview that has been asked to describe his or her previous job.
This is so because being too negative about your ex will cause some doubts to your new partner on how you will describe him or her if you ever break up.
2. But don’t be too positive
On the other hand, one should also know how to measure things up.
You should also not be too positive about your ex.
Being too positive about your ex will send some signal of threat to your new partner, making him or her feel unsafe.
This might be due to worries that you might one day get back together with your ex.
3. No names
As much as you are trying to prove your transparency to your new partner, naming of your ex to your new partner should not happen.
The naming of exes in front of your new partner makes them feel uncomfortable.
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