The idea of marriage is something that many are attracted to yet some will tell you they are uncomfortable with the rituals that are traditionally associated with the 'big' day.
Apparently, this old ceremony place a lot of emphasis on things that do not rhyme to the complex realities of contemporary relationships.
But what exactly should an ideal wedding day before and after consist of to make the modern day couples feel at ease as they go down the aisle?
Well, according to the book 'How to Get Married' by The School of Life (https://www.theschooloflife.com/shop/how-to-get-married/), a wedding ceremony involves two other things that comes before it and after it as we enumerate below.
1. Psychological preparations
According to the book, a wedding should begin at a psychological level where couples need to ready themselves for the tricky journey ahead while thinking through some of the thorniest issues that beset love.
"The main preparation we need for marriage is not practical, but philosophical. We need to understand ourselves, our partners, the institution of marriage and the nature of love," reads the book in parts.
2. Wedding ceremony
On this, the book advises, that couples should pick out a well thought out venue to suggested vows and readings.
"Together we embrace a set of limitations on one kind of freedom – the freedom to run away – so as to protect and strengthen another kind of freedom: a shared ability to mature and create something of lasting value, one whose pains are aligned to our better selves," it adds.
3. Beginning of married life
The book says that couples needs to have ideas on how to approach the start of married life for them to recognise that they require structures to insulate themselves from their urges.
With this, the couple will always remember that marriage means "to lock ourselves up willingly, because we acknowledge the benefits of the long term; the wisdom of the morning after the storm".