We all know how awful and heartbreaking it is when your partner cheats on you.
We also know why you should never cheat on your partner and why the idea shouldn't even cross your mind.
In a perfect world, no one would ever do these things, but unfortunately, we live in one where people cheat all the time; and it can be you.
Therefore, on a practical tack, what should you do if your partner catches you cheating?
How should you handle the situation?
In case you're clueless, here are three things you should do after you're caught cheating:
1.Apologise repeatedly
When you are caught cheating, do not justify the reasons or make excuses for your actions.
Instead, apologise to your partner, and mean it while you do it.
Whatever the circumstance that made you cheat, avoid the impulse to defend yourself at this point.
This is not the time to tell him or her "I wouldn't have cheated if you hadn't spent so much time with the 'boyz' or with your 'gals'. Just apologise.
As much as it may take a while before you earn your partner's forgiveness, saying "I'm sorry" is a way of assuring him or her that you're committed to never letting that happen again.
2. Give your partner space
If your partner really loves you, he or she will definitely be angry if they catch you cheating.
At this point, it is okay to take a "timeout" and give him or her space to let all the anger out.
This, however, does not mean you go away for one year. Just give him or her space for a few weeks then talk about it once they cool down.
3. Make a decision
Decide if you want to give your relationship another chance or call it quits. Also, find out if your partner wants to give it another shot or if they are done.
If both of you want to save your relationship, then it isn't over.
At this point, both of you can agree to seek professional help through a counsellor, who will help you rebuild your relationship and heal the hurt and mistrust your partner feels after you cheated.
Whatever the outcome, you need to forgive yourself and move on.
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