The Scriptures say, "A man leaves his father and mother to get married, and becomes like one person with his wife." (Ephesians 5:31).
However, this is not the case among many couples today going by the kind of shaky relationships we continue to witness today.
In Central Kenya for instance, it is a common phenomenon to find a newly married young man leaving his wife in the village to go to town in the name of work.
That's perfectly in order and there is nothing wrong with it. What is wrong with this whole thing is that some of these men often tend to forget that they have wives in the village who need their physical presence for obvious reasons.
You will, therefore, hear a typical man from Central Kenya arguing, 'nie onakorwo ndinukaga maingi, mutumia wakwa ndari kindu agaga. M-Pesa yagiukire' (Even if I don't go home regularly, there is nothing that my wife lacks. There is mobile money transfer).
And for sure, some of these women whose husbands argue as such are well taken care of. In fact, they even have shamba boys and housegirls who help them in domestic chores leaving the woman's job being widely managerial.
Unfortunately, these are the same kind of women whom you will hear preying on their farmhands and shamba boys bringing unmeasured shame to their hardworking husbands.
But why? Below are a few observations.
1. Sexual starvation
Many of these women who are mostly young, despite having everything provided for them by their husbands, are sexually starved.
Their husbands appear to them for intimacy once in a blue moon. In such circumstances, as a young man with such a habit, you can go on and make as much money as you want in town but remember your wife did not get married to you to just to make money for her.
2. Side-kicks (Tucungwa)
Your wife isn't a fool. When the only time you appear in the village is during Christmas or during a family get together, she has got all the reasons to join the dots together and draw conclusions. Especially if she happens to know you cannot go for a day without 'putting your fingers in the honeypot'.
So when you hear that she is hanging around with your farmhand, don't be quick to react because she is almost certainly sure that you also have a 'gacungwa' in town. Isn't it?
3. Well fed
When all your wife back in the village does the whole day is to feed on milk and eggs while watching blood-warming love telenovelas, what do you expect? Sometimes boredom can lead to infidelity.
That said, it is good to note that this is a general observation and we do not in anyway seek to encourage marital infidelity under the above listed or any other circumstances.
Wives and husbands should always strive to remain faithful to each other.
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