There’s a community – too bad I have forgotten the name – where women used to report their husbands to the elders if they didn’t discipline them for a long time. Discipline, to them, was a show of love. Not today. Corporal punishment has been banned in schools, and, maybe, marriages.
At the time, being sentimental was not the way showing affection. Okonkwo didn’t and likened it to cowardice. However, we live in changing times, in a completely new social spectrum that our grandfathers rattle their bones whenever they see the stuff we are doing.
On that note, a perfect relationship, where there are no disagreements does not seem perfect at all. At least one partner is agreeing to everything, or bottling up whatever bothers them. It means that one is not standing up for themselves.
There’s a quote that goes ‘fake friends agree, the real ones argue.’ It is true to a relationship. Arguing out with your partner shows that they are expressive and mean the best for you. After all, it is a partnership, and no one should settle for less in it.
The arguments should be based on petty issues such as how a toothpaste should be pressed or the correct order of wearing socks. It should be about progressive things in the relationships. It should be about things that build you rather than things that destroy you.
Also, the arguments should not exceed the point where you hurl insults especially biological shortcomings on the part of your partner. If it gets to that point then the relationship won’t last long, because bad words get lodged in the brain, and might take forever to erase.
Many couples can attest to the fact that the relationship gets better when differences are resolved. And then the amorous conquests after an argument!! What’s sweeter than that?
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