Falling in love and being loved is a unique experience for every human being despite their skin color, tribe or gender. Though this uniqueness is universal there are differences in the way both men and women approach love and the way they express their affections.

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Now, this is the part that differs depending on your culture, tradition, nurture and even race and beliefs. Therefore, there's a unique process through which Kenyan men in specific fall in love.

This tends to happen in stages. For Kenyan men love is a happy experience no matter how macho we try to act. However, most of the time we try to bide our time and through no fault of our own, we take a detour, hibernating, before Cupid's fever kicks in.

Here are the seven stages that Kenyan  men undergo in the process of falling in love:

1. Love at first sight (Fundamentals stage)

Kenyan men are almost always attracted to the physical appearance of a woman on first glance- shallow kind of thinking, I know. Though each guy has his own preference in what he likes about a woman, there's the obvious curvaceous figure and big derrières that has got Kenyan men's tongues wagging and necks breaking.

2. Wooing and pursuing

It's common knowledge that men generally appreciate loads of women on a daily basis. You'll see them trying to steal quick glances at beautiful women all the time. However, this doesn't mean that he will pursue each one of them, when he does then he enters the infatuation stage.

3. Memorandum of understanding

MOU is a common phrase in the Kenyan political scene. This is where both parties shake hands and agree to each other's demands. When an attractive girl reciprocates the guy's advances then the guy digs in and intensifies his pursuit of winning over the woman of his desire.

4. Gifts and spoiling

At this stage, most Kenyan men haven't fallen in love with the girl just yet. They are more concerned about impressing her and making her like him. So he will spoil her woman- sponsor style. He isn't in love but he wants everything to go as planned.

5. Sealing the deal

Now after making a prospective sale every salesman has to close the buy by convincing the buyer to buy the product. So this is where most Kenyan men try to "seal the deal" as it is mostly referred to in the Kenyan dating scene. This is where the guy makes sure that he's certain that the girl is interested and likes him.

6. Reality check

All this while most Kenyan men have been too preoccupied with winning over the girl's affection and "sealing the deal" that they did not really evaluate whether they really like the woman they are pursuing or not. Now that the girl is in love with him, the Kenyan man starts weighing his options whether he really wants to have a relationship with this girl. Selfish but totally true!

7. Kitchen Cabinet

Now that the girl is in love with him, he takes a couple of days to sit back and weigh the pros and the cons of being in a relationship with that girl. If after a little soul searching and much deliberation with the "kitchen cabinet" - mostly his close friends. The Kenyan man enters the final stage of falling in love with the woman in question.

However, if he is not sure or convinced that the girl is the perfect fit for him he will start avoiding her or totally change his attitude toward her on a moments notice.