The chemistry associated with love makes it all the more difficult for most individuals to decipher. Love is never a competition for souls or a psycho-emotional combat to try and sway someone's attention. It is, rather, given freely and willingly by the two souls involved. Anything less or more than that is like a conspiracy without conspirators. The idea of love coming from one side is just utter nonsense.
As such, you may find yourself in some kind of a limbo especially when the person you think loves you does not really show any desire of being with you or at your side whatsoever. You should not stress over something that seems to be crumbling and always on the move towards the wrong direction.
If you really love your man, you should fight for him. What you should never do is to kind of compete for his attention. If you ever find yourself competing for someone's attention, just know that you are on the right path to destruction and need to do something to save your skin. A relationship should be some kind of mutual engagement where you are there for one another and do not feel bad doing something good for your partner.
Asking someone you love to choose you is some kind of desperation and a lowering of your standing with regards to your standing in their lives. Love is an automatic thing. If it is to be, it will definitely be, if it isn't, it will never be. If he has feelings for you, just give him time and let it grow. Don't rush to him asking him to confirm his stance. He may confirm that he has feelings for you but the real perception from your askance will degrade his respect for you.
Risking it all for him and willing to go through everything for him will be a good show of affection and deep love. The only concern is that he has to deserve everything you do for him and not any form of nonsense. If he shows any type of reluctance to be with you or is simply not comfortable hanging around with you, then, he does not obviously deserve any form of sacrifice or a show of affection.
Finding yourself in a position where you are literally begging 'your man' to hang out with you is also a show of desperation. If he does not want to be seen with you or to spend any meaningful time with you, just leave him alone and be your on your own. He probably does not love you or is simply in another relationship that is parenthetically doing very well.
Another key rule in dating and relationship matters is that you should never be taken for granted. Make sure you do things that make you their priority. He should see you as an asset and not just anything to go by. Don't compete to be considered a person of importance for him. Just simply fight for his love but it should never go as far as to a point where you are competing to prove your worth. If he has other female friends you see as a threat, tell him of your fears but do not be drawn into any form of a fight to get the attention.
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