In a relationship where you are not in touch with reality, you are always prone to exploitation and different forms of manipulation.
This is usually true in cases where you love blindly or are blinded by the pleasures of a relationship that you do not care about the real world anymore.
When you put yourself in these vulnerable positions, your man will obviously seize the chance and make you a puppet where everything will then be done according to the dictates of his will and instincts.
Well, it all starts somewhere. It is either that you are allowing him to manipulate you or he is disguising his actions behind acts you may not be familiar with.
If you cannot decipher the real impact of these intentions and you fall for the trap, you will literally be made a slave in your relationship.
But what are the signs that show you are being manipulated? Well, here are the key signs you need to look out for:
1. It’s always your fault
In any relationship, the primary goal is to work as a team and share out some of the problems that may arise.
The problem, however, comes in when your man makes you the problem with every issue that crops up.
It may actually be him, but he will always find ways of turning the tide around so that somehow, you take the bigger percentage of the blame.
Such a relationship is dangerous, and unless you can work to turn things around, it may end on a very petty basis.
2. Tells you to ‘stop overreacting.’
Keeping your cool in cases of misunderstandings is good.
However, if the issue at hand is so grave, it also makes sense to air your reactions in a bid to counter a future happening of the same.
Problems come in when your partner does not allow you to say anything concerning an issue at hand.
Whenever you start voicing your concerns on anything, he will always find ways to ‘put out the fire’ and make it seem like the situation does not require any form of attention at all. This is critically alarming.
3. Your opinion doesn’t matter
In cases where you have to discuss and come up with something, he will always be the boss.
You will find that most of what you decide to do as partners is always stemming from his decisions.
If this goes on for a very long time, you will eventually get used to it and become comfortable with his ‘bossy’ status.
This will happen so subconsciously if you cannot be able to identify it earlier.
You will then be like an outsider in that relationship or a child who depends on the decisions of his seniors.
4. He makes you feel inferior
There may be times when he tries to get to your emotional ends by saying that he will stay with you forever despite your flaws.
He may tell you that you are not the prettiest of ladies or that he is passing over multiple opportunities to love ‘better’ ladies just to stay with you.
He makes you feel like he is doing you a favour by staying around you.
This kind of language is meant to demoralise you and make him seem like a god to you.
Make sure it doesn’t reach at that by spotting a defiant personality of yourself.
Make him appreciate you more. That’s what love is all about- understanding each other.
5. You are not happy, but you can’t leave
Once he has that much control over you, he will seize the little things and make it really hard for you to rightly say enough is enough and leave.
Your calls will go unanswered, and he may offer no explanation at all to that.
Your main job here is to know this earlier before it goes too far and rectify it.
If you cannot be happy, you have no reason to hang around if the situation does not show any signs of improvement.
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