It is a little unnerving or disturbing, or disgusting when a lady you’ve known barely three seconds earlier asks for money. The infamous ‘nitumie thao’ nitakurudishia’ has become synonymous with slay queens who want to rock a lifestyle way beyond their reach. Others just want to shut up a man.
Admittedly, the issue of money is one of the things that can make or break a relationship. A highly opinionated feminist will deliver homilies about equality, to the minute detail, but when the issue of money is brought up, it is the man’s responsibility.
On the contrary, there is feminist out there who live the talks. But then they are too busy living their lives to be bothered telling all and sundry that equality is an issue that would one day eradicate HIV. She reads her books, travelling to exotic destinations using her own money. She could have whored to get there, but the society is ever willing to overlook someone with money, sanitizing with the statement: she overcame challenges.
The truth is money runs relationships. Take the money away and people’s true colours begin showing. As such, when your lady begins pestering you for the money you don’t have, chances are she’s already moved on. Why would she want money which she sure knows you don’t have?
It is not a wonder that ladies take older men. A few years are acceptable. It is for the sole reason that they have their things organized better than an age mate, who has over time continued to display toddler tendencies.
Chris Rock once said that when you lose your job, your lady will tell you not to worry, that you will get rid of some things just get by until things change for the better. However, you are among the things she’s talking about getting rid of. He said that the ridding off may not be beginning there and then but the countdown begins the day you lose that job.