Sometimes you never appreciate the value of something until you lose it, at least, I have painfully come to this realisation.
When my grandmother was still alive, we always had great moments: the kind of moments every teenager cherishes just because they want to listen to all those myths about Mau Mau and some ancestors that they never got to see. Anyway, such had been the kind of my relationship not to add that she was always my refuge whenever we had a fight with my mother. Unfortunately, I didn't really care much about her lessons until today when I can see it all and again, remember of her wise counsel.Sharing is caring and so, allow me to share three great lessons about men that I learned from my grandmother.1. Education is a weapon against men"If I would be a girl like you again, I would study hard and be the one to marry men," the old lady would say. Not that she detested men or anything since she had been married to a handsome chef, but she hated the fact that her father had denied her the chance to have an education yet she really loved school."No man will respect you if you do not have an education, so study hard my girl," she would warn.2. Men deserve respectMy grandfather had passed on long ago before I was even born. Ordinarily, my grandmother was supposed to take over as the head of the family which she did. However, she always consulted her sons before making decisions and followed whatever they said. If her sons said something was right, she was in for it. In short, it was a sign of respect for the patriarchal society.3. Every man loves good foodSometimes she would joke about how she would laugh at me if my husband sent me back to my parents for cooking bad food. To her, the way to a man's heart was truly through his stomach and I had to learn the art of making delicious food if I ever wanted to be a wife. Every time my uncles or male cousins visited her, she would prepare kienyeji chicken and mukimo which they really liked. When her daughters were coming, however, she bothered less and said they would cook for themselves once they got home.