Losing a loved one is a painful experience. Some of us could think we are consoling or counselling someone who has lost their husband but we could be worsening the situation.
Here are some of the things you should never say to a widow.
1. You are strong. I'm surprised how you have managed that
This comment dismisses the grief she could be going through. The implication of this might be that she will not need your support since she is strong by herself. Avoid saying this since you are unaware of what she did to gain the strength.
2. I will be there anytime you reach me
This sounds more caring but it puts a burden on her to reach out to you anytime she needs assistance which she could be uncomfortable with. Kindly avoid this comment and be there any time regardless of whether she reached out to you or not.
3. You should fill the blank
Never utter these words to a woman who has lost her husband. It is disheartening to accept the loss, take up the pieces and remain strong for the family. It will hurt more if you suggest she can move on and find someone else. Avoid the comment completely.
4. I know how you feel
No one understands what the other person is going through because experiences are quite different. This is not a comforting comment to say to a widow.