Life has a million challenges that people must know how to face daily. The bad thing with life is that there is no manual where people can look at and know how to go with it, however, some people have come up with their own manuals that others can look at and know how to handle different life situations. Life can knock you down, but your mental habits are the ones that keep you down. According to the book, “How to Stop Feeling Like Shit by life coach Andrea Owen,” here are five habits that are sabotaging your mental health:
You sweep stress and anxiety under the rug
People have always feared difficult emotions coming their way. However, when you are faced with one, the best thing is to face it at that time and it will definitely go away. People who avoid stress, disappointment, and worry keep their minds at stake in destructive behaviors. Facing your stress and anxiety helps one feel relieved and be able to think clearly.
You don’t ask for help
In life, there is no one who has everything he/she needs. At any given point, people lack something and the best thing to do is ask for help. When you are in a situation you cannot pull yourself out and you refuse to ask for help, it’s you who will be in more trouble. You will make your mind think hard for no good reason when you could have just asked for help and solve your “little” problem than keep your minds hostage.
You always need to be in control
Sometimes life will always have challenges. When you want to be in control for every aspect of life, it will be heartbreaking when somewhere something goes against your expectations and this will make you feel like a failure. Embracing the need for equal thoughts has always been easy and healthy for our minds.
You compare yourself to others
There is no way you are going to win comparing yourself to others. This will only keep your minds at stake of what to do to reach other people’s level when you can be them. People have always been lost in the sea of comparative thoughts and think of how to be that other person in life. Being yourself and doing what you can and what makes you happy is all you need for a good mental health.
You play the blame game
Blame game has never been a solution to any problem. It actually creates more problems when you blame your partner for your mistakes. When we blame others, this blocks us from experiencing empathy. More so, we stop feeling what we make others feel and this keeps your minds at bay.