The truth is, most of us spend the first few weeks, maybe months in a new relationship, obsessed with our partner’s past behavior. We ask about exes because we want to know details about why they broke up. We want to know about their sexual history even though we are scared of the answers. Some secrets we keep are trivial and can be revealed in due time. Others, however, are serious and requires a significant amount of trust with a new partner before they can be divulged.
There are a few secrets which are so deeply buried in the past that they are no longer relevant. In other words, some skeletons should remain in the closet. Below are five of the most common secrets we keep which can destroy a relationship if revealed:
1. Past relationships with a married person. Married people cheat and they cheat a lot. It is a fact of life and there are quite a lot of people out there who have slept with a married man or woman. The fear of being labeled a homewrecker is enough to make most people lock up this secret and throw away the key. How will you feel if you discovered that the person you just fell madly in love with is capable of sleeping with a married person? It is natural to want to know the motivation behind the decision to sleep with a married person in the first place.
2. Past relationships with sugar daddies and sugar mummies. The concept behind a sugar daddy or sugar mummy arrangement is pretty simple. If you are a young lady or man, a rich old man or woman who is not necessarily married will agree to take care of all your financial needs in exchange for your company and sexual services. These arrangements have been around for decades and no one in their right mind will admit that they ever had a relationship with a sugar daddy or sugar mummy.
3. Past sexual encounters with friends. There are always one or two friends in your boyfriend or girlfriend’s life who simply give you pause and make you question if they are covering up a past tryst. It gets scarier if the friend in question is still single and very good looking. Your lover will certainly not disclose if he or she boned a close friend at some point in time.
4. The number of past sexual partners. Each and every time I have broken my own rule and asked a woman how many sexual partners she has had; I end up regretting asking in the first place. Everyone knows most will have an opinion no matter how high or low the number is.
5. Abortions. Abortions is a very serious life decision and most will like to keep that chapter of their lives shut forever. It is a tough decision to make and no matter the reason or reasons, it is never easy bringing up the subject again.