You might have had an argument with your lover, for whichever reasons, but that is not something bad.
Psychologist and marriage counselor Dr. Nathan Cobb explains how couples can avoid a heated argument and actually discuss their problems like two mature people who care and love each other.
1. Focus on the present
It is very easy to bring into the discussion things that happened years ago, maybe because you want to cover up what you did, or as an excuse. This will only make everything worse. You can not change the past, you can only improve or worsen the present, so know where to put your focus.
2. Take turn talking
"Take turns talking and listening so that both have the opportunity to say what they need," advises Cobb.
3. Don't use degrading language
Avoid insulting and humiliating the other person. Doing so indicates a great lack of respect for their dignity. Insulting the other is the same as telling him or her that they will never be safe by our side and that no matter what, you're always right.
4. Don't get physically violent
Never, allow an argument to lead to a physical aggression of any kind. No behavior that has to do with this, whether it is an attempted hit, throwing an object or raising a fist is acceptable. "If any of you resort to physical force and violence in your relationship, seek professional help," advises Cobb.
5. Avoid blaming your partner
Blaming your partner will only prevent you from solving the problem and will invite them to be on the defensive, causing a back and forth of increasingly violent claims.