In a house where a house help is employed, men in most cases end up sleeping with the maids in absence of their wives.
Below are ways a woman if the house can curb that
1. Setting clear boundaries
From the onset, make sure you have an employer-employee relationship. Excessive familiarity especially being too chatty with your house help opens the doors to disrespect. Your house help should not be your gossip buddy or confidant, she adds. Do not talk about your marital issues with her, and never have a marital dispute in her presence.
2. Let your bedroom be sacred
According to Bi Mswafari(a relationship counsellor), a woman should embrace her bedroom since it belongs to only her and her husband.
“Your house help or nanny has no business in your bedroom. Clean the room yourself. Make the bed yourself. Pick your husband’s clothes yourself,” she states sternly.
3. Limit her contact with your hubby
People form bonds of intimacy when they spend time together, wives should limit the contact that house helps have with the man of the house. Also, sending your house help for errands with your husband is not advisable, the shopping will turn out to be hers and not yours.
4. Set a dress code
In this age of ‘My dress my choice’, setting a dress code for your house help might be frowned upon, figure-hugging clothes have been the downfall of many unions. A lot of the house helps to come with baggy clothes on day one, but wait until Sunday, and you will see the real her! Such women end up tempting your man when they expose their figures.
5. Keep some duties to yourself
Your house help is there to do exactly that: help. She is not there to do everything, Cook the best meal for your husband, and serve him. He is the man of the house and he deserves the best. Personally.