Hopefully, by now you've come to know and understand the innate nature of men when it comes to sharing or talking about their feelings; we are the hardest nut to crack more so if we are supposed to do so with a member of the opposite gender.
By no fault of our own, the society nurtures boys to be less emotionally open than their female counterparts. So ladies no matter how much you wish that your man follows your lead in sharing matters of the heart, he's never going to. We are just not wired like that.
Men view this act of openness as a weakness on his part, and in doing so it diminishes his status in your view. Therefore the ball is always in the ladies court, as you are the one to make him feel comfortable enough to open up and share.
Though the current crop of guys, read millennials, are more into having deeper conversations with their partners. The level of intimacy still varies widely for both genders, when a man just hangs with you or shares physical contact they consider this as a conversation- a gesture of their affection.
There are various effective ways of making a guy open up that bears fruit;
Ambush when he seems occupied
Truth be told, almost every guy feels cornered when he's being bombarded by intimate questions that require him to be vulnerable and pour his heart out. It's very emasculating, and they will either shy away or become defensive. But when he has an outlet in the form of an activity then it's highly probable that the conversation will make headway.
Trick him into the conversation with light talk
Ther's no faster way to shut a man down than with this simple sentence "we need to talk". That conversation is stopped in its tracks before it can even begin. Men's brains shut down, and we only think of what storms might be brewing, then the fight or flight mode kicks in. It's better if you start with a light talk and slowly ease him into the topic before he realizes it, the conversation would have already taken place.
Learn and master his vocabulary
This is easier done by knowing his hobbies and favorite pass time activities. Maybe learning a few football rules won't hurt, knowing the small stuff that he's interested in is a great conversation starter he won't feel cornered or suspicious of your chain of thought. By the time the small talk about the linesman making the wrong call runs its cause, then his defenses will have been disabled.
Cultivate an air of openness from the onset
When you open up about your feelings and thoughts on regular occasions, the man will slowly but steadily follow your lead. Once he ascertains that there is no backlash from sharing his thoughts and feelings then the ground is set for a healthy two-way conversation.
Give him the floor
Women are known the world over for their skill of multitasking (read overlapping, interjecting and commenting). This might work in your gaggles when you chilling with your girlfriends but it definitely will not work with your guy. When he starts talking, listen and let him get his point across.
Reward him
Finally, after he's done opening up encourage and support him. Be positive. You can even uplift his spirits by giving him one heck of a kiss and offering to prepare his favorite stew.
Come and thank me later!