Forget about ripped abs, bulging biceps, and a flat stomach, as well as a fat bank account, friends in high places, and your own private jet. These six personality traits power the pull of magnetic attraction.
1. Consistency. Myth: Consistent people are dull and boring; they lack spontaneity and a sense of adventure.
Consistency may be the hobgoblin of small minds, but it is the heart of successful relationships. Consistency is … tempting.
2. Balance. Myth: All passionate lovers are emotionally unstable basket cases.
Being balanced doesn’t mean you don’t possess strong passions—in the conference room or the bedroom—or that you dutifully list the pros and cons before your every move.
Being balanced means you have a center and can navigate rough waters and roll with the surges. Balance is … hot.
3. Openness. Myth: Open people lack conviction and don’t know what they want.
Being open doesn’t mean being willing to do anything or answering every question with, “whatever, you choose.” Being open means being open-minded, open to new experiences and experiments. Openness is … alluring.4. Impulse control. Myth: Impulsive people are the only ones who are free be themselves, generate excitement, and pursue their dreams. Impulse control is … seductive.
5. Tenderness. Myth: Tender people are weak and oversensitive.
Tenderness is not the opposite of strength but the foundation of strength, and sensitivity is a strong quality. Being tender means baring your heart, exposing your soft parts with a confident vulnerability. Tenderness is … arousing.
6. Boundaries. Myth: Boundaries are those silly things you let go of when you fall in love.
Boundaries are absolutely the most important thing you can bring to and maintain in every type of relationship and especially in intimate ones. Having boundaries is … sexy.