A desperate man in a relationship can well be described as attention seeking, needy, clingy and thirsty to just be loved even when it's not necessary.
For men, it is important to note that being desperate is an immediate turn off to a woman and should be avoided like a plague.
The following techniques will cushion you from the brunt of being desperate:
1. Text sparingly
The initial way to avoid looking desperate is to stop texting your girl more than she is texting back. Embark on your previous conversations and examine who did the most texting even where replies were not forthcoming; if it is you, then know you are the needy and desperate one here.
If you text her and she responds hours later with a one-word answer, don’t text back in paragraphs. The sure rule of thumbs is to deter from texting twice in a row.
2. Be confident/comfortable being alone
The feeling of wanting to call/text your girlfriend and invite them over to spend some time together is almost irresistible. However, being infatuated with a woman could be a sure turn-off and especially if she is an independent lady. Smothering her from time to time shuts down her chances of wanting to be with you.
Space is vital and needs to be respected and be confident being independent. Find new hobbies and sports that excite you and get busy since this will make you more attractive since you will be living your life.
3. Avoid being too nice
DO not be tricked that being the “too nice guy” is of any good! You should be able to nice and also kind but avoid the extremes since it is very easy to be exploited. But be clever and avoid being mean. Being too nice and always being the one giving millions of compliments will land you in a friend zone and where no man wants to belong.
4. Avoid being too available. Nothing communicates desperacy like being the one ready to cancel your class, interview, meeting just to be the one always ready for a date one hour before the scheduled time.
Ladies are usually good at this and will make sure they turn-up for dates slightly late and this is a clever way to communicate not being desperate. Also, if you are ditched today and you are ready to hung-out them the next time you are called could be communicating desperacy. Have well-set limits and self-respect for yourself and know to defend your rights when they are infringed.
5. Learn to let goIt is not fair to cling to someone whose actions reduce you to a worthless creature and if you do this, you will be joining the desperate league. Just ask yourself if such kind of a person is who you really want to be with, if yes, then get ready to take the heat but if not, walkway respectively.
6. Spend time with your friends
Don’t ditch your friends just to go hung-out with your new crush. This is so bad and you probably don’t want this to happen to you.
Putting your life at halt/pause just to have a woman around is not clever and only communicates desperacy. Include your friends in your relationship in a healthy way and they will for sure come to your help when things go wrong someday.