All marriages experience ups and downs at times and some even seem to clock to an end after long periods of misunderstood and maybe ego which sometimes happens to be the number one marriage breaker. However, no matter how ugly your marriage may seem, no matter how impossible change can seem in your marriage you still can save it. Below are 6 ways to save your marriage when things turn sour;
List down all issues you feel hopeless about
Anger and hopelessness do not qualify to be the reason for the breakage of your marriage. Your marriage is bigger than these and you shouldn't leave space for such in your relationship. You, therefore, have to list down every single thing that causes the anger and hopelessness in your marriage before trying anything else. You have to include even those that affect your spouse.
Refocus on yourself
It is true that in marriage, you will see your spouse's mistakes than you see yours. To take things to an equal level, you have to refocus on the inner you and find out if you have been wrong too. Be open to yourself and should you find ego-the marriage breaker for you then you should pick up yourself, put yourself together and say no to it. Weigh your mistakes plus those of your spouse and create an environment for good discussions.
Cut off the blames
The blames that you throw to each other are totally unhelpful. The negative comments you throw to each other will only taint your relationship. Cut of blames, criticism, anger, fights, accusations. Stay calm and avoid raising your voice to your spouse whenever anger storms you. Peaceful environment breeds success of a marriage.
Increase the positive energy you put into the relationship
If your spouse feels good being hugged, kissed, tickled you have to put more energy into these. Have more sex, smile at each other, be more appreciative. You can spend time together doing what makes both of you feel happy and special. Be the best for each other. When you give out more positive, the more positive you will get back.
Learn the skills for a successful marriage
There are a number of books and journals with contents important for marriages and relationships. Find such and extract important knowledge on how to make your marriage flourish with success.
Express concerns and make decisions cooperatively
Expressing concerns constructively is so much important for a couple to solve marriage problems. Learn to air out your concerns to your spouse in the most polite ways by using sentence starters like 'I feel...', 'my concern is...' Understanding each other's concerns is important for holding talks to neutralize the acidic situation in your marriage.
Hope this article provides you with ideas on how to save your marriage if in case it is dwindling at the edge of a cliff.