Let's all agree, when a relationship becomes toxic you will be labeled a sage if you opt to clock out before the shit hits the fan. Choosing to stay in an abusive relationship due to flimsy reasons such as financial instability or the fear of being alone is the highest level of hogwash and backwardness that even Dr. Cupid can not liberate you from.
Relationships are not business franchises or gainful employment that you have to toil and put in hard labor so as to reap a peasant's wage. Healthy relationships allow for personal growth, development and overall happiness. They are based on mutual respect and understanding.
So when you finally decide to walk out and leave that clingy frog that you have been kissing all this while as you wait on your prince charming or your Juliet, and they just won't be shrugged off that easily.
Here are some tips on how to lose them for good:
Diplomacy is not an option
Being diplomatic entails the need to deepen relations, in the case of severing ties with an ex then brutal honesty should suffice. Do not beat around the bush or mince your words. Shoot straight as an arrow and be as clear as day when you communicate the termination of the relationship. Avoid being mean and sarcastic, your goal is to make sure they understand your stance not to hurt their feelings.
Establish boundaries
It goes without saying when a relationship is done then new boundaries need to be set. No more unwarranted late night calls, no more surprise drop-bys, no more hanging out together. In short, just make a list of dos and don't, and make sure that both of you understand the new guidelines perfectly. Do not go back on any of these boundaries, that will just lead them on.
Master your feelings
It's unfortunate that sometimes we are forced to leave behind people that we truly loved and deeply cared for, this makes the breakup even more unbearable. When your clingy ex is able to rise back to life feelings that you had chosen and managed to bury, then you will find that moving on can be one heck of a steep hike with several backslides. You will do well to guard your emotions.
Create space between the two of you
This should be both physically and emotionally. If you hang around the same places then as much as possible try and keep the interaction at the bare minimum, or better yet change your routines and hang out joints. If you happen to share the same friends then be sure to inform them of the recent developments. It would be awkward to get invited to the same parties unknowingly. Do not make your friends choose sides that would only worsen the situation by inviting them into your drama.
Ignore and move on
Do not entertain her(his) shenanigans and fits to get your attention. When she texts don't be rude but are firm and courteous. Responding to insults would just rile up the both of you and pretty soon they will have roped you into their drama. So just respond with one firm text "Kindly stop contacting me" and ignore the rest. Make a step of moving on by going on dates, maybe this will dampen their spirits and cool their momentum.
Good old-fashioned blocking
If she(he) gets too crazy and everything else doesn't seem to work then block them in every possible way. Make them unable to contact you by phone or by social media, some will still make phone calls from unknown numbers; block those too! Be thorough in doing your due diligence with regard to blocking.
Finally, if everything else seems not to be working then you should move to a new neighborhood. Sever all ties with her (him) including dropping mutual friends, if she(he) persists then report the matter to the authorities and acquire a restraining order cause now they have become a danger to your person.
Hopefully, all goes well with you.