Sometimes the ability to read our blind date might be the key to saving loads of time and energy that we might have ended up wasting on a relationship that was doomed to fail from the onset. Anyone within the dating scene has to have a rough idea of when to work on a relationship and when to call it quits and walk away.
You have to master your instincts. When you’re with a certain person and from the very beginning something strikes you as odd or bizarre, and it sticks with you and makes you uncomfortable but you can’t really wrap meaning around it, then it would be best to follow your instincts. This could be a deal breaker for you.
That one thing that doesn't seem to augur well with you from the onset could manifest to an even deeper problem for your relationship some months later. You have to set in stone a list of your deal-breakers, so as to avoid unnecessary heartbreaks in future.
Here's is a list of obvious first date deal breakers:
1. Rude and aggressive
If someone appears aggressive and rude to other people, maybe the waiter in a restaurant or random pedestrians on the street, then this could be an indicator of either a deeply disturbed person or a potential domestic abuser. Either way, you shouldn't give them any further thought, no matter how much you may think you like them.
2. Arrives late for your date
Everyone in life is busy. People who appreciate other people's time always tend to come out as considerate and caring. A little late is just fine, it could be as a sign of anxiety, depending on the excuse. However, anything else should be treated as utter disrespect or a troubling sign of laziness.
3. Excessive drinking
If he or she drinks too much on your date and blames it on anxiety then you should be worried. This could be a sign of alcoholism or addiction. Furthermore, you need a confident man, someone who can handle your presence and pay attention to your beautiful words with all the soberness it deserves.
4. Trash talking an ex
Mostly irrational people do this, rational people also do it but in the heat of anger and resentment. However, this should never be a first date conversation. If your date brings up their exes and badmouths them in your presence this could be a sign that they've not yet moved on from their past relationship. They would definitely drag this garbage into the current relationship.
5. Awkward dressing
You can tell so much from a person's general dressing, especially, if they're headed out for a first date. People tend to dress to impress their date, so if they don't impress you by their dressing then this could be an issue. Over-grooming could indicate a puffed-up sense of self, and under-grooming could signal depression or other problems.
6. Answers his phone on your date
This is a very disturbing behaviour. It is rude and demeaning, it shows his lack of interest in being on that date and definitely should bring his intentions to question. If they cant even give you a piece of their time on the first date, will they ever do it?
7. Unnecessarily bosses waiters around
If your date has the aura of self-importance then this could be an indicator that they are no good for you, neither in the short term nor the long term. If he keeps on sending the food back out of general mischief and a misguided sense of self-worth then you should take this as a sign and walk out before its too late. Maybe no one can please the person, including you.