Whereas nobody fancies the idea or even the remote thought of being reeled into an argument with their significant other, this might actually be a big relationship booster if done in a healthy fashion. Several studies have found that couples who engage in healthy conflicts are more likely to have a happier relationship as compared to the couples who eschew difficult conversations.
Arguing often, however, could mean that the relationship is either toxic or it has simply run its cause. Arguing in itself should not be viewed as a benevolent spectacle, the quality of the argument should far outweigh its quantity. A couple consists of two very different and unique personalities hence disagreements are unfortunately inevitable at one point or another.
The key to a successful relationship is how you handle the inevitable disagreements. Couples who handle arguments with honesty, frankness, respect, and love are far more successful than those who don’t. However this is easier said than done; when emotions are unhinged it takes a very loving, trusting and mature partnership to navigate these turbulent waters.
Here are some of the benefits of arguments as opposed to silent brooding in any relationship:
1. Increases intimacy
Fighting between partners can act as a growth process in which your self-understanding, and understanding of your partner increases. It provides means and ways whereby partners get to understand each other's likes, dislikes, their insecurities, their flexibility, and boundaries. Makeup sex is also one of the perks of being engaged in cold wars with your partner.
2. Allows for vulnerability and individuality
Fighting demonstrates that you are human and not some perfect being. It allows for both partners to express their individuality and uniqueness which is vital for the growth of the union. The facade of propagating the perfect relationship also is shredded completely
3. Strengthens the couple bond
Engaging in healthy arguments that are done without contempt, criticism, or defensiveness can actually strengthen a romantic relationship. It is only through conflict resolution that we get to know intimate workings of our partner's psyche and overall emotions. Once you understand each other’s reasons, you'll have an easier time coming up with solutions.
4. Improves character
Just like a sword, people's characters need to be exposed to extreme temperatures so as to toughen their resolve. It's common knowledge that people in committed relationships tend to appear more mature than the single individuals. Arguments when resolved amicably end up building both partners characters and widens their perception on a myriad of issues.
5. Avoids toxic compilation of resentment
When people avoid the conversation and fail to voice their concerns, their concerns go underground. They become undiscussables; issues that none of the partners wants to talk about. This fermentation of accrued feelings can escalate and eventually destroy the relationship. Arguing out issues as they arise offers both partners with a healthy outlet for release.
6. Avoids numbness and dis-attachment
Lots of couples tend to avoid quarrels and arguments whenever possible. The consequences of several years of avoiding, denying and tiptoeing around to avoid rocking the boat, they often become merely a shadow of their real selves. Instead, by learning to address conflict as a means to gaining a creative engagement, couples find a release from there would be self-imposed fake identity.
7. The relationship grows significantly
Arguments provide a far deeper understanding of the dynamics of a relationship. The relationship morphs into an adventure of constant growth and evolution. Conquering several obstacles as a team brings about an overall sense of satisfaction and gratification. Unlike in cold wars where the relationship breaks down due to lack of initiative from both partners.