It’s normal to worry that maybe, just maybe, your partner could be unfaithful. Even if it’s totally unwarranted and your relationship is great, that kind of self-doubt can creep in on occasion.
And people can cheat for any number of reasons. If he portrays some of these signs on you, you should not have a reason to worry about:
1.He’s not selfish. In many situations, cheating is selfish. If he’s the kind of guy that drops everything and cancels plans when you need him most, he’s probably not the kind of guy that would hurt you by cheating. 'Selflessness' is still different than just being “nice.” He can be friendly and kind, and still be a cheater.
2.He’s pretty trustworthy. If he tends not to lie or sneak off or go dark for days at a time, he’s probably not the kind of guy who could handle keeping an affair a secret. Yeah, sure, he could also just be the greatest liar of all time but the likelihood of that is slim.
3. He doesn’t keep secrets. If you’ve caught him hiding a massive secret or two (like he-lost-his-job-and-didn’t-tell-you-for-months huge), it’s certainly feasible that he’s capable of hiding a side chick.
4. He’s way too busy. Between work and grad school and the band he’s in, he barely has enough time to date you, let alone juggle someone else. Plus, he spends all his remaining free time with you, anyway.
5. You know pretty much everything going on in his life. If you’re the jealous type and get worried when he mentions a coworker he got lunch with, there’s likely nothing to worry about there. He wouldn’t bother mentioning someone he had on the side or was thinking about pursuing.
6. He’s never cheated before. If you know he’s got a good track record, that’s as good an endorsement as any. “Once a cheater, always a cheater” isn’t inherently true, but like you learned in first grade, patterns have a way of repeating themselves.
7. You’ve never seen any warning signs. While it’s possible to get blindsided by a cheating partner, plenty of people feel like it was so obvious in hindsight. If he’s not acting sketchy and suspicious, or constantly checking but hiding his phone, there’s nothing to really be suspicious of.