If you are in a relationship, it is natural to feel a little jealous at times, especially if you have very strong feelings for your partner. Jealousy isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It’s human nature. Occasional jealousy is Ok and may pour a little excitement and enthusiasm into the relationship.
However, jealousy becomes problematic when it consumes one of the partners and takes hostage of the relationship as it creeps into every aspect of your life. When you choose to act out in jealousy or wallow in it then the relationship is bent to suffer from this unhealthy situation.
Here are some general tips for dealing with insecurities:
1. Assess your relationship
You have to analyze every aspect of your relationship that may be triggering some of these unhealthy surges of jealousy. In doing this there are some very critical questions that one has to seek answers to. Is your relationship built on mutual trust, respect, and love? Does your partner’s behaviour reflect their word? Are they honest with you?. These are some of the issues that might be triggering your feelings of jealousy.
2. Assess Yourself
When you conduct the relationship assessment and find out that you are in a healthy and stable relationship, then the problem has to be a personal one. You have to look inner and isolate the factors and experiences that might be fueling your insecurities: Do you have a pervasive feeling of emptiness or lack of self-worth? Are you seeking solely wholesome fulfillment from your partner? Were you raised in a repressive environment? Do you have attachment issues? These are some of the critical questions that might help you shed light on your jealousy problems.
3. Alert your partner
Once you realise the depth and intensity of your feelings of jealousy, you have to alert your partner of their existence. It's easier to work through a jealousy problem when your partner is aware of the triggers and causes of their occurrence. Both of you can embark on a journey of getting you better and building a platform of trust and understanding.
4. Have a social life
People whose social life are dull or totally nonexistent tend to envy their partners outgoing nature and also have the tendency of becoming too co-dependent on their partners to the extent of feeling too possessive and becoming aggressive toward any outward source of affection toward their partner. A robust social life decreases this unhealthy imbalance.
5. Seek help and support
Attachment style is malleable and can be molded and geared toward being more independent, open and trusting. Later experiences and circumstances can influence your style. For instance, a skilled therapist or a guidance and counseling professional can help you build self-esteem and work through your concerns.
6. Healthy management of emotions
As we asserted earlier, jealousy is unhealthy and toxic for any relationship. Acting in rage or in the heat of the moment can escalate matters to a dangerous level. Practice mindfulness to calm your runaway emotions, engage your partner in a meaningful conversation only after you've cooled down and have regained a level-head.
7. Tap into your beautiful inner self
Enjoy and appreciate your talents and uniqueness, love yourself and have fun exploring the very many dimensions of both your inner beauty and outer beauty. There's is a calmness that only high self-esteem and self-love can offer. Jealousy is mainly propagated by the feeling of inadequacy. Stop feeling inadequate!