There is no one who is perfect. At times we might be wronged by those who we associate with and end up keeping such pain within ourselves. 

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We tend to re-experience the frustrations and resentment once we recall what transpired in the past.

The following signs will help you know if you are holding a grudge against someone.

1. You always think negative about that person

If you realise that the first thought or feeling towards someone who wronged you is negative, you are likely holding a grudge against them. Some people keep grudges for so long to an extent they forget the reason why those people upset them but still have negative emotions once they see or think about them.

2. You are still bitter

If you are harbouring a grudge, you will find it hard for you to move on or take part in a certain task without failing to become bitter and angry. When you keep on having feelings of resentment, it is proof that you have not moved on from such issues and you are still bitter.

3. You need distance

If you notice you are trying all means possible such as ignoring their calls, texts or giving excuses just because you do not want to be in the same place with them, it is evident that you have some unsolved issues with them.