Hello, my name is Anne. I am a thirty-five-year-old woman married for six years now.
Lately, my husband has been acting strangely with our house help which makes me suspect that the two are locked in an affair of a sexual nature. I have been debating with myself whether to confront him or not.
Kindly advise me on what to do.
Response:
Thank you very much, Anne, for asking the question. Taking the step to ask the question is a powerful indication of your concern for your six-year-old marriage.
The media has been awash with reports of marriages being wrecked after one partner being caught engaging in extra-marital affairs with house helps.
Anne, the thing is that what you have is just mere suspicion and not confirmed fears.
Your suspicions could be right or wrong.
Taking action on unconfirmed suspicions would be a big mistake.
My advice to you is that you should take your time to investigate to get concrete evidence.
There is a possibility that your suspicions are being fed by paranoia and there is nothing wrong with being paranoid.
It just means that you care so much about your marriage that you don't want it to end.
If there is something that your man is doing that is feeding that paranoia, you can let him know so that he can change.
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