It is famously stated that "Love conquers all". But this might not hold true for certain cases, thriving relationships tend to crumble despite the obvious signs of abounding affection from both partners. This might be as a result of several issues that we are going to explore and understand their causes.
We probably have all known someone, at one time or another, who has been in what seemed like a blissfully loving relationship but ended up separating from their partner anyway. The real question is why. Why do two people who are seemingly so in love decide to break up? The answer is quite simple, love is complicated!
There are many dynamics that come into play in order to sustain a healthy relationship. And as heartbreaking as this news might sound, sometimes Love is just not enough! Here are some of the reasons why a couple in love might still end up breaking up despite their feelings:
#1 Different phases of life
When a couple are not in sync in age, tastes and preferences then this offers an uphill task in making the relationship work. Imagine being in a relationship where only one partner is willing to settle down while the other partner is the life of the party: This relationship is meant to have hiccups and tensions no matter the level of love and affection.
#2 Different views of life
When partners have different beliefs, ambitions and mindset of doing things, then their relationship is meant to suffer immensely. However this challenge can only be overcome by both partners being willing to compromise so as to agree on a middle ground.
#3 Sex is always an issue
Most people tend to attach sex to mean attraction in relationships. So if your partner offers you sex then this means she/he is still attracted to you, this even becomes more apparent as the number of times a couple has sex increases. But whenever a partner's advances are shot down they quickly associate this rejection to mean that there's no longer an attraction, which might be a wrong assumption.
#4 Grass might be greener on the other side
This happens a lot, where a couple get so comfortable with their current love and sex life and therefore develop an inkling to do better. It describes issues not with sex specifically, but sexuality. Some couples break up, even though they are in love because they feel a need to explore their sexuality and fantasies such as same-sex relations.
#5 Independence vis-a-vis codependency
Personal space is one of the very huge determinant on how a couple thrives and relates. If the partners both have a different view on how much time they need to spend together then this offers a complication. Imagine a relationship where one partner appreciates personal space and time while the other is clingy and has an inherent need to be around their other half at every waking moment. This will definitely create a rift that might end up in a split.
#6 Cheating partner
If a partner is caught cheating then this will definitely affect the relationship no matter how loving and affectionate the couple were before the incident. This act alone is usually enough to end the relationship with immediate effect, since it creates nothing but mistrust, sadness, anger and resentment.
#7 Sins of the past come knocking
Whenever horrible issues arise from any of the partner's past, this tends to taint their image within the sights of their current lovers. Sometimes some of these past mistakes are to big to be overlooked by your partner. It could a dubious sexual history, a criminal record, or something entirely different, but it is starting to change your perceptions of your loved one.
#8 Family disputes
When in-laws start wrangling and quarreling with each other constantly, this normally tends to affect the relationship automatically. When they're forever interfering and causing trouble between you two, then this could lead to an eventual split unless both partners are brave enough to stand up to their families and defend their partners.