It the desire of every person to settle in a stable and happy relationship. But this doesn't work in most cases. Here are the reasons why you are in an unhappy relationship.
1. You are letting third parties interfere. If you allow third parties to run and direct your love life you will struggle in your relationship/marriage. Don’t let your parents, siblings and friends micromanage you and your partner/spouse.
2. You want to copy others. As long as you want to be like other couples or compete against them, your love life will be empty. No fulfilment comes out of being a copycat.
3. You are a control freak. Wanting everything to go your way will make your partner/spouse tolerate you rather than celebrate you. It also will lead to frustration as life has ups and downs. Don’t develop high blood pressure and become angry when things don’t go your way. Ride the curves and turns life brings. You don’t know everything.
4. You are selfish. When you make the relationship/marriage to be just about you and your needs, it will become bitter. There is joy in giving. Give to your partner/spouse as he/she gives to you. Be mindful of each other.
5. You still look back. Are you in a relationship or married but you still look back at your ex or past life? You will confuse yourself and destroy the purity and intensity of your current relationship/marriage.
6. You have a dark view towards sex. Because sex has brought a lot of pain to many when abused or misused, many tend to have a negative view towards sex, they see sex as evil and dirty.
These people in marriage are the ones who are rigid when making love. They have sex as an obligation, not for intimacy. They detest different sexual positions claiming sexual curiosity in marriage is wrong. They miss out on the beauty of intimacy.
7. You are insecure. Insecurity will make you dethrone yourself even when your position in your partner/spouse’s life is not under threat. It will make you falsely accuse your partner/spouse for no reason, make you paranoid, make you jealous when you shouldn’t be and will give you sleepless nights. Don’t push your partner/spouse away. Be secure in yourself. Have a healthy self-esteem.
8. You are distracted. Paying romantic attention to someone else besides your partner/spouse, flirting, lusting after another will keep you from giving your best to your partner/spouse. Focus on the one you love.