Sexual infidelity is a taboo across the divide. Yet it's as ubiquitous as the air we breathe, we may not like it but it's here so deal with it. This vice has become contagious and it's slowly but steadily digging its roots deep into the core of our society. More and more people are having extra-marital affairs behind their partners back.
However, there are some very critical questions that you really need to brainstorm about and some obvious facts that you should be acquainted with before you become the side piece. So as you engage in your forbidden extracurricular activities here are some of the things you should consider before you become the 'mpango wa kando':
1. Affairs are never about just the two of you
It's easy to get carried away by thoughts of being 'just the two of you' against the world; with no care in the world. This is just but a fallacy that our minds peddle to justify the act of infidelity. The repercussions of your actions will affect a very wide spectrum; his wife and kids, your husband and kids, both families and friends. It would be wise to remember that your actions could impact an entire village of people.
2. Don't believe the hype
It’s easy to believe a one-sided story about the other woman: she’s stopped being desirable, she’s stopped wanting sex, she’s overbearing. All these are things that a partner will point out as the reason as to why they only want you and are willing to call it quits on their current relationship. It would be wise not to believe a one-sided story. The other woman has her story too.
3. What do you stand to lose in case things go south
Before commencing your shady exploits with your forbidden lover, it would be wise to weigh and explore in detail the magnitude and intensity of your choice. Thoroughly comb through the pros and cons of your sexcapade; what are the ramifications of getting caught- cause chances are that you'll get caught. This might even help you overcome the compulsions of stepping out on your partner.
4. What do you want to get out of it
Sanity dictates that you only do what brings you happiness and an overwhelming sense of peace. Sneaking around and keeping a secret life is hectic and draining. Living a double life and keeping up with the lies could be detrimental to your mental health; you might just find yourself super-stressed out, wishing you had never started this in the first place. So have a plan before you jump into this affair business.
5. Sex will definitely be amazing
They say the forbidden fruit tastes the sweetest. This holds true for extramarital affairs too. The majority of affairs are founded on what happens behind the sheets. The good news is you’ll have a regular supply of fantastic sex that might be lacking in both your relationships. Furthermore, the thrill of sleeping around could be addictive and adventurous.
6. You're here for the short term and you might not be the only one
Never kid yourself about the meaning of the relationship. Affairs in their nature are selfish acts that only serve one purpose; the cheater's motives. He might be getting all that he requires from you for the time being but as soon as your well runs dry they will be off to hike on the latest model. Some even might be cheating on you with other multiple partners, so don't be disillusioned about its significance.
7. There are lines that you can never come back from
Once a cheater, always a cheater. It's not out of hand to assume that everyone that has cheated on their partners at one point or another is highly likely to do it again. Humans are creatures of habit, given the same circumstances and under the same conditions very few cheaters would fight the urge to dip their hand in the honey jar.
8. Karma pays in own coin
They say "What goes around, comes back around". And this seems to have held true in very many areas of our day to day lives. If you've been around then you've definitely seen a few instances; don't live in a lie that yours will be different, it definitely won't.