You put yourself at great risk by pursuing a relationship with someone who has little or no interest in you. 

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What you stand to lose by far exceeds what you may gain after it all especially if you immerse yourself into the 'wild goose chase' without prior consideration and thinking.

As such, there are things you need to take into consideration before deciding to 'go after' your crush. 

Here are 3 uncomfortable things you need to understand before pursuing a relationship with someone who believes you have no role to play in their lives.

1. Pleasing them won't make them accept you

When pursuing a relationship with someone, you need to understand that pleasing them won't make anything change. If they have decided to push you aside, putting an effort into trying to persuade them why you are the better one will only lead to heartbreaks and more heartbreaks. 

You need to find ways of understanding them beyond merely lavishing your crush with gifts. Pleasing someone is a very crippled way of pursuing a relationship. If they don't see you as a great partner, just stay away.

2. You can't provide everything they want

Modernism has changed the way people view relationships. For some, being in a relationship merely implies that the male partner provides, and the lady is taken care of at all times; the financial ability of the male partner notwithstanding. If you are turned down because you are unable to provide a certain aspect of their needs, you really need to reconsider pursuing such a relationship. 

It is okay to make sure that your partner is comfortable. You, however, need to acknowledge that you do not have the power to provide everything they need. Attempting to provide everything for a prospective partner will only wear you out, especially when they are not so interested.

3. Your worth cannot be defined by what someone else thinks of you

In pursuing a relationship, you always need to understand your worth. This will be useful in giving you an edge and withstand the rigours of romantic uncertainties. Know your worth and stick to what you believe in. Do not bend so low or put yourself at the danger of humiliation because you believe they are doing you a favour by being around.