Over the weekend I traveled with a group of women from our hood to a friend’s wedding in Kisumu, we were two guys and five ladies. As much as we were concentrating on our own stories, once in a while I could secretly pay attention to the women stories, from the way they were talking and laughing with passion, you would be enticed to join in.
One story that caught me was of one lady who was obviously discussing a man who has been following her for some time now but she is “not” interested. She made me hate being a man for a moment, she vividly described her suitor until I could see him in my mind as a very “old-fashioned man” who has nothing to offer in love. I am sorry men but look at the characters these women give us;
He has no vibe
I was so shocked to learn that everything you tell a woman when you are seducing her, she transfers to her “committee” members for ratification, this lady Njeri, not her real name brought on table every word her suitor told her, the committee members laughed at what they thought was “silly” and all in unison could say “huyo enyewe hana lugha”.
He’s good as a friend not as a lover
From the story I realized that the guy was too gentle for a modern day woman, he could bring up stories about his upbringing in his native home. These stories were a total turn off to this lady and her friends and as a result, he automatically won a spot in the famous “friend-zone”.
He’s not cute
Ever since I was a kid, I knew it is a girl thing to be cute, on this day, however, I realized it is also a factor women consider. When this lady was describing her suitor as “he does not know how to dress, he wears baggy trousers, old shirts,”. The “Committee” said that “ata si mcute” (he’s not even cute).