Once you make a proposal or some kind of approach to date someone you have an interest in, they may not tell you right away that they already have some kind of engagement with someone else. It is therefore up to you to realise or to uncover the signs that you are not that important. It may be hard to know and this will make you waste a lot of time trying to be relevant. You may sometimes ask them and they will be so reluctant to let you know of their past or their other life. You may actually be dating a clone who camouflages every time you are not around and then becomes something different when you show up.

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Here are some of the signs you are a backup plan. 

1. Off start

This is the very first stage of your approach and it happens during the first few days of your meeting. You will realise that they are not kind of present where you are and are not really that much into what you are talking about. However humorous you may try to be, you will realise that they do not care much. At times, it will seriously feel like talking to oneself.

2. Convenience

Once you think you have done everything to start and now have their contacts, everything will be done at their convenience. They will not have the time to talk to you or create any chances to meet. If it is meeting or hanging out with you, it will be for a very short time because of the numerous excuses they come up with to not have time. Even texting back or calling will be when they 'have time.'

3. Never met their friends

If you have never met any of their friends, just don't have the hopes of ever having them around as lovers. It could be true that they live a different life besides what you have. It is not normal for any person whatsoever to have no friends at all in life. Just look out for that and do not be deceived. Some may introduce you to friends but the information they give about you is way too inadequate. Just look out.

4. Unavailability

You will realise that they are always unavailable. It could be because of engagements but, trust me, those engagements do not really have to be prolonged. If they are always coming up with reasons to not avail themselves for a meeting or a get-together, you better just run.