Being a second wife is not easy. Women married as second wives deal with endless stigmas because of accepting to settle in polygamous families.
It hurts to realise you are the second wife to someone you truly loved only to find out he is married.
Second wives, however, have to learn how to cope up with these challenges:
1. Step-parenthood
Being a step parent is a nightmare.
However well you treat the children of your husband and the other woman, all will not favour you.
Some of the children of your co-wife might not accept you as their mother.
They can frustrate you in different ways.
They will also fight back if they are not comfortable with your marriage to their father.
2. Financial issues
Some women get married only to realise the husband has huge debts after his divorce.
It becomes hard to settle the debt before you start working on your life.
Sometimes you can give up on your love because of the financial challenges you experience in your marriage as the second partner.
3. Normal relationship problems
Second wives also experience normal problems we all face in relationships.
They also witness challenges such as lack of trust and cheating.
These women must learn to deal with these challenges.
4. Negative stigma
It is annoying when you pass somewhere, and someone shouts, “Oh, she is a second wife.”
Regardless of your status in the society, people will want to bring you down.
You must learn to deal with the negative comments from the people around you.
Even the unmarried women will always have something to say.
5. First marriage baggage
You will carry the burden of the first marriage if you decide to be the second wife.
Everyone will use you as the marking scheme for the problems the first marriage suffered.
If the first wife was not good, then people are likely to attribute the same to you.#MyLifestyle