Cases of breakups and abortions have been rampant in most Kenyan universities. A Kenyatta University graduate explains her encounter with men which made her procure an abortion.
Her experiences made her hate men, a reason she is still single. Here is her touching story:
"I was raised by a single mother who worked hard to raise us. She was a staunch Christian who raised us knowing that God is the only father we have. She used to advise us against relationships so, I never knew any man until when I was 19 years old.
I met my first boyfriend who really loved me, though I did not love him that much. He lured me to have sex with him, but all the times he tried, I declined courtesy of the teachings our mother used to give us.
However, due to pressure and how my friends described the pleasure derived from sex, I later gave in, and we could have sex like every day.
He was a second-year student in university, and I had just completed my secondary education. He knew how campus life was, so he made sure I was pregnant due to fear of losing me. I gave birth towards the end of my first year. Given that I never loved him from the beginning, my hatred for him escalated.
After graduating from campus, I went to an organisation in 2016 to look for a job. I found a guy who was smartly dressed, and I loved him from the first sight. He was religious, and this developed from being a religious advisor to me to a lover. I opened up to him, and he encouraged me to leave the father of my firstborn child.
We became so intimate that we could have sex almost every weekend. I contracted a UTI infection, but we were treated and continued with the relationship.
He later disappeared from the organisation, and I realised I was pregnant. When I decided to call him, he shouted at me asking me to stop calling him.
I was so stressed, I would not bear a second child at home yet I was supposed to be a role model to my siblings. I had to do an abortion.
It has been haunting me since then, but I now know my future lies in my decisions. I don't know whether I will be able to bear children again, but I hope for the best.
From my past experiences, I hate men. I will never date, I prefer being single now because I will never trust men. To the ladies out there, do not be deluded by his godly actions. Know him well before having sex with him.”