Relationships without exes and past romantic involvements could prove quite blissful, no wonder first love is always pure and untainted. However, we live in a flawed world where finding love rarely happens on our first try.
Some exes can be like vultures, always circling over your relationship. They could eventually become your relationship's biggest headache if not dealt with in good time and in the right way.
Here are a few tips on how to deal with your partner's ex.
1. Stay out of it
It could be easy to be pulled into the unfolding drama in a bid to stand up for your partner. You shouldn't yield to this urge since it might just escalate an already bad situation.
2. Don't judge the process
You might have been the reason for their break-up. In this case, then the ex has a right to feel some sense of betrayal and anger toward you. Let tempers cool naturally.
3. Encourage positive communication
Closure is good, for both your partner and their ex. Working through issues and resolving any residual feelings could help reduce hostilities.
4. Work on your relationship
By focussing more on your partner's well being and making efforts to strengthen your bond, you will stand a better chance of fending off the exes advances and drama.
5. Empower your partner
In a warzone, troops need a safe home base in which to retire. Offering your support, trust and advice could help your partner overcome the drama and establish solid boundaries.
6. Look after yourself
Dealing with your partner's toxic exes could drain all the energy from you if you let it, so don't. Minding your own business and surrounding yourself with good company are all steps in the right direction.
Couples make decisions together. As much as your partner's ex should be none of your business, this still could be a problem for you. Tell your partner about your comfort levels and boundaries.