There are several single mothers in Ukambani. Unfortunately, if you ask them the reasons that made them part ways with their men, they only regret leaving. Most of them do not mention adultery, violence or financial issues. They divorce faithful and respectful men.
Here are the reasons why some Kamba women divorce good husbands:
1. Equality
There are several women in Ukambani who feel they need to be equal to their husbands. These beautiful women are well educated, earn good salaries and are respected in the public sphere. According to them, this success deserves equal treatment.
However, deserving equal treatment does not mean demanding it. As they push for being equal in a relationship, the man feels humiliated and withdraws. In the end, she will feel the man does not love her. Considering her financial abilities, she will leave and buy her house in Syokimau.
2. Caring husbands
The above equality pressure has forced some husbands to learn feminine traits and adopt them. Unfortunately, the same women who wanted a man who gives them an opportunity to be equals complains. You will find her telling her friends that they cannot be two ‘Muenis’ in the house. She will later divorce the excessively caring man for being feminine.
3. Parenting
The other thing that makes a Kamba woman leave her loving husband is the parenting conflict. There is a way he wants to raise children yet she opposes it without giving satisfactory reasons for her objection. He will leave and demand to raise his kids.
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